Suyin Aerts
May 8, 2020

Be brave

We all know the feeling, sudden change, outside our reach, disruption is in the house. What if everything turns out just right because you reacted calmly. It is what I felt when I had my stroke some years ago. First thing that I thought was, will I see my children again?  Being a mother, with Mother’s Day just around the corner, is also about being brave and putting the love for your children in a correct perspective. I think it is our duty to act in a responsible way and be brave for our children.

But we also need to be brave enough to work on a healthy relationship with our children. It is easy for us to become attached as human beings simply because we are human beings. Relationships require a lot of emotional labour, including vulnerability, intimacy, loyalty, and transparency. And even if with your children it is unconditional love, we should not treat the relation as a romantic relation. It is okay to feel sad when the person you love is not around you or too busy for conversation. Relationships require not only love but also support and understanding. We all have multiple activities on a regular basis and occasionally larger ones that require priority.  So be brave and try not to confuse attachment with love. Attachment is about fear and dependency and has more to do with a love of self than the love of another.

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